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God Hates Elizabeth Edwards

Four simple words: What Would Jesus Do?

Amplify’d from www.msnbc.msn.com

A church that pickets funerals to protest what it calls American immorality says its members will be picketing the service this Saturday for Elizabeth Edwards, who died of breast cancer on Tuesday.

Signs like “Thank God for Dead Soldiers” have been raised at military funerals, and the church announced its latest action with a press release titled “God hates Elizabeth Edwards.”

The church has gotten the attention of the U.S. Supreme Court, which last October heard arguments over whether it has a free speech right to picket funerals with its controversial signs.

The Supreme Court justices heard arguments in the emotion-laden case of Albert Snyder. His son died in Iraq in 2006, and members of the church protested the funeral.

The members of the small church welcome the attention the protests have brought, mocking their critics and vowing not to change their ways whatever the outcome at the Supreme Court.

“No American should ever be required to apologize for following his or her conscience,” said Margie Phelps, a daughter of Fred Phelps and the lawyer arguing the case for the church.

While distancing themselves from the church’s message, media organizations, including The Associated Press, have called on the court to side with church because of concerns that a victory for Snyder could erode free speech rights.

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We All Bring Ourselves To Work

I saw a post earlier today about a woman who was fired for taking more than the allotted amount of time for a funeral.  It seems her ongoing grief spilled over into work and the management believed they had given her all the time they needed.

I really understand both sides.

My mother was working in the dietary unit of a local hospital and was nearly fired for taking time to visit my brother in the hospital during what turned out to be the last week of his life.  When she walked into work and said “I need next week off because my son died today” they completely changed their demeanor.  They’d had too much experience with people who used excuses to avoid working.

Grief affects each of us in different ways and there is no cookie cutter approach to dealing with it in the workplace…at least not one that works. So how do we best manage it?

Good question.  I’m stoic.  It’s very likely you will never know when I am heart-broken or sick to my stomach with fear or facing a challenge that I wouldn’t wish on anyone else.  I don’t seem very sympathetic a lot but it’s because I won’t permit myself to break down.

On the other hand there are some workplaces that are openly supportive and offer counseling – even just informally –  for people who have faced crises and I think that’s great!  It’s just not for me.

Maybe management’s grief expectations should be part of the employee hiring process.  Employees would be clear how their bosses viewed dealing with personal issues.  They could then decide (I know this isn’t probably a consideration in our current environment) if the company was right for them.

How do you deal with grief in the workplace?

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