It’s not the crime really. It’s where you do the time.
We weep over the ignorance of a girl who has a baby at 12 but believe she knows exactly what she is doing when involved in holding up a convenience store. We shake our heads at violence in music, movies and games then feel shocked when teenagers internalize that violence and act on it. We drink and smoke and have random sex as adults and are incredulous when our kids follow suit underage.